So you have your heart set on anal sex and are dying to bring this subject about in a conversation with your lady just to see where you stand. Who knows, maybe she'll be open to the idea of trying a little anal play? At the very least, you hope she'll refrain from throwing you out the door. But there is something that could significantly increase your chances of having a reasonable talk about anal sex instead of a swift and utter rejection: information.

You need to know nearly all there is to know about anal sex and you need to be able to answer her every question. Because, let me tell you, she'll have a lot of questions. What you need is to come across as fully informed and ready to take into account her objections to this or that aspect of anal sex. You need to be able to put her fears to rest.

Naturally, she will try to do her own independent research into this issue, but that should not keep you from becoming quite the little expert on anal sex. A thorough knowledge of the issue will impress her and, coupled with a suitable self-assured attitude, will give the impression that you know what you're doing despite the fact that it will probably be the first time you're penetrating an anus.

Starting with the basics, the first advice anybody would give you is to be careful about health hazards. First and foremost, your lady must keep a clean anus and rectum. Enemas are great before anal sex, although a simple shower is likely to be enough if the lady in question has the proper hygiene habits. A very good idea is to take a shower together before sex and start your path toward anal sex by delicately washing your lady's bottom.

She'll appreciate the gesture, while you'll appreciate the feeling of reassurance. You will want to repeat this delightful ritual after the anal session. And since we're on the subject, never take your penis out of the anus and stick it into the vagina without cleaning it first. Infections have no positive role in your life together. For that matter, you should never attempt anal penetration without a condom.

The rectum is not perfectly ready for penetration and friction. Its walls are not covered with the kind of tissue found in the vagina and there is no lubrication inside. Not even a condom can prevent the damage that anal sex causes to the inside of the rectum, but using a lot of lubrication and a condom is far better than the naked penis.

Moreover, not using a condom exposes your penis to urethral infection from the various bacteria thriving in the rectum. The third point on the list is relaxation and patience. Relaxation is something the lady should try to achieve before and during anal sex. Apprehension, anxiety and fear are not going to help the situation. Correctly performed anal sex will cause only brief pain and, sometimes, no pain at all.

So ladies should learn to relax their anus, while men should learn to be very patient.It all starts with a finger covered by a condom and a liberal amount of lubrication going slowly into the anus, pausing at every knuckle to let the anus adjust to the feeling and stretching. After the anus is sufficiently stretched that the said finger slides easily in and out, you can move up to two fingers and, finally, to the penis.

The process is not complicated, but you have to be very patient. Always remember that hurrying is very likely to cause injuries. With all these facts in mind you can hold your own in a conversation and patiently explain how anal sex can be made very safe and pain-free. Have fun.