Threesome is one of the most delightful fantasies people indulge into. It may be the feeling of power men get from having two women at their disposal, it may be the string of orgasms two men can give a woman or it may be a simple and common wish to experiment. Nevertheless, you should really try to understand your motivation before acquainting your lover with your dream of a mini-orgy.

If you're dreaming about threesomes because it's on the forbidden list, then you're probably going to be fine. If, on the other hand, you simply wish to sleep with your lover's hot friends, then you might run into some problems. The basic thing with this fantasy and with ANY other fantasy is to refrain from forcing anybody into anything.

Don't show up with another person and say: "Guess what? We're going to have a threesome!". This is uncool, to say the least. Also, don't push your lover into this. Discuss the issue, but don't use pressure. If the other's not comfortable with the idea of bringing a stranger into your most intimate act, then drop it.

Your partner is very likely to jump to the conclusion that his or her bedroom performance is inadequate and you want to change the air a bit. Jealousy is one step away and we don't want to go there. It's even worse if you are bisexual or gay and thought of coming out with a threesome. There are better ways to inform your partner of your sexual orientation, ways that take into account your lover's sensitivity to this piece of information.

The basic idea is to talk your partner into it and to avoid making the choice of the third partner alone. Make sure your lover is involved at every level of the preparations and make sure that she or he is ready to share you. On a more positive note, if you can really talk your partner into it, then hold on because it's going to be a wild ride.

Three people means that much more pleasure for everybody and that nobody would leave the bed unsatisfied. The positions may feel a bit awkward at first, especially if none of you is used with having three people move around a bed. Two people can act on initiative and response. Three people have to be careful not to get in the way of each other.

Another problem is the fact that the established couple has to include a stranger in their erotic play, while the third person must get used not to one new partner, but to two of them. Still, these are the problems that make threesomes even more fun for those involved. Anyway you do it, don't expect to set up a menage a trois on the spot. Stick to threesomes for the pure sexual pleasure and you'll be fine.

Bringing in a stranger for sex is one thing, making that stranger part of the emotional relationship is quite something else. And be selective about who you're inviting over for threesomes. You may want to skip your friends, unless you trust them implicitly. And never ever involve somebody from the office. The risk of something going wrong is too big.